Hurt and accept the hurt in others
I know you hurt. There is no other way to explain the make-up of this body. You are not OK. But as a Christian we must begin to embrace our -not OK/ yet OK-ness. You are OK and healthy when you embrace the fact that the natural pains, uncertainties of self, and just plain weaknesses are FROM God to help us carry out our mission. It can be more possible to grasp the fact that 1. others are hurting and 2. those that hurt without God cannot be whole. It is our duty and call in life to help others be whole through knowing God, not to care for ourselves constantly so that we feel whole all the time. Accepting that our wholeness gift from God isn’t always easy and that brokeness and worthlessness is in the depth of those without Him is helpful and tranformational. It doesn’t matter how others appear from the world’s perspective, it matters that we know and they know (when they reach deep inside and find nothing) that they must connect with truth and that they know and we know that when we live we are full.
Hurting is OK, but not helping those who truly hurt is unacceptable. It is what you are still hurting and remembering for (to help others).